Been a while due to sad news

ZenLateralus

Disposition Seagal
I know it's been a while since I've been on this site. Three weeks ago I came home from college to find that my fiancee decided that she didn't love me anymore. So, we broke off the wedding and the honey moon and sold the house. Now I guess I have to figure out how to meet women again. I guess I just have to go up to girls whom I never met that I think are within my age group and ask them if they'd like to get together for lunch sometime. I really have no idea on how to meet someone new. I also realize that now that I have time that maybe I'll pursue taking martial arts classes again. I like aikido but I thought I might like trying something more like what Jet Li does, wushu. I think the most recent martial art I've practiced was korean karate and hapkido at the same school. That was alright but I'd really like to learn something great.
So, anyway, hi everyone. I guess I'm back and will be chatting with you all again shortly.
 

Serena

Administrator
I'm so sorry to hear this, Zen. :( This must have been devastating news. I'm glad you decided to come back here, though.

And, if you don't mind me saying this, maybe meeting another woman right now shouldn't be a top priority for you. I truly believe that when you least expect it, not necessarily while you're seeking it, you'll find the woman you're meant to spend your life with. If you rush directly into another relationship, there's always the possibility you could settle, rather than being alone.

Take this time to enjoy your own company, to adjust to being on your own again. Do some things for yourself that you've thought of in the past. I think pursuing the martial classes you mentioned is a great start! :) I remember you have an extensive video collection. Spend some time with those, organizing them, watching some of your favorites, maybe inviting some friends over to see them with you. Go out with some friends. Not necessarily to pick up girls. :D Just to enjoy their company and relax. :)

It's been a sad time for you, but the fact that you're back here with us is a good start, like you're ready to start moving on with your life. :) We're glad to have you back here!
 

suziwong

Administrator
Staff member
Oh I sorry for you Zen.. we are your friends and we are here for you...
I hope everything will be fine soon..
sincerely

suzi
 

ZenLateralus

Disposition Seagal
I know rushing into another relationship isn't always a good idea. This break-up occurred almost 3 weeks ago so most of my "ducks are in a row". I am getting together with people from work some nights to hang out and my brother and I are spending a lot of time with eachother again. I think since I don't need to be working 28 hours a week anymore I'm going to cut down to 22 or something because I don't like retail work.
 

Serena

Administrator
ZenLateralus said:
I know rushing into another relationship isn't always a good idea. This break-up occurred almost 3 weeks ago so most of my "ducks are in a row". I am getting together with people from work some nights to hang out and my brother and I are spending a lot of time with eachother again. I think since I don't need to be working 28 hours a week anymore I'm going to cut down to 22 or something because I don't like retail work.
Good for you, Zen! :) Sounds like you have a good head on your shoulders. Three weeks isn't very long, I know, but getting together with people from work and hanging out with your brother--and us! :D--are all good steps, in my opinion. :)

Check out the site, if you haven't been here in a while. There's lots more info, another movie coming out in May (Submerged), a trailer for that, and lots more! :) And we still have the Friday night chats, if you happen to be home.
 

Amos Stevens

New Member
Well not that it helps any,but atleast this occurred before the marriage....as Serena said,don't rush into another relationship-be for the wrong reasons.

Glad to have you back!
 

katw_03

New Member
ZenL

I am very sorry this happened. I DO know how you feel!
I agree with Serena & Amos...both are giving good,sound
advice. I was married for fifteen years until recently.
I am re-discovering myself. It is a bittersweet journey,
but it gets better every day! :)
 

lmorgan102556

New Member
Welcome Back I Was Married For Twentey Two Years He Left Me For His Old Old Ex Girlfrend So Been Divorce For Nine Years.. Im Still Fine Out Alot About Myself. I Like Being By Myself Come And Go Anytime I Want. Have Some Fun...
 

pantera

New Member
I feel sad for you Zen. But i agree with serena: use the time you have to do everything you wanted to do. Like this, the time will go fast, and with time the pain will decrease.One you'll wake up and think that you're ready to try with someone else.
I know what i say probably doesn't help you for now but anyway we're all here to support you. We're all glad to see you back (despite the reasons) and i hope will make you smile a little bit in those hard time. :)

Best wishes.
 

KATHYPURDOM

Steven Seagal Fan
Zen I'm so sorry to hear this, but I'm glad that it happened now before you got married. Keep doing what you are doing and not get involved with someone to soon. Like Serena said we are still in the chat room on Fridays. So if your not busy come and join us.:)
 

ZenLateralus

Disposition Seagal
My dad's computer doesn't allow the chat applet to load so I'll have to wait to chat until I get my laptop. Thanks for keeping in touch everyone.
 

tora

Funmaker
Sad to hear this,Zen,but well,there's a bright side of life as well.Maybe sometimes some things should end for a better beginning.Just don't hurry your time.
Stay tuned!!
 

ZenLateralus

Disposition Seagal
Well, I went out bowling last night with a bunch of friends (I guess I can call them friends) from work. I had a really good time but once it was over I was just back at home packing a punch of that familiar feeling of aloneness. I guess eventually I'll meet someone new but as far as I'm concerned, the sooner the better.
 
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