kokoro said:
You state you have been subjected to criticisims on your looks, then, go ahead and do it to someone else. Stinks of hypocrisy!!
How do you figure that, exactly? I knew there were some people who were going to interpret what I said the way you did, but there wasn't any other way I could tell you where I was coming from in honest terms, which is very far from being hypocritical. I was as relentlessly honest in that as I am in everything else, to my detriment, it seems.
You are not the only one that has been ridiculed on the way you look, some of us that have, tend to not be so harsh about the way others look.
That's one of way handling it. It's not my way. The purpose of many of such criticisms is to make the object of the criticism put up and shut up; essentially, to make them a victim. I simply refused to accept that. I chose to handle the criticisms differently; I chose to analyse the criticism. Why is this person considered more attractive than another? What do I think is attractive? What differs between my interpretation and another's?
You and others are entitled to your opinion, I just don't agree with it, which is my opinion. I stand by what I said.
So do I, kokoro. But you'll notice I didn't call you any names, or make a judgement upon your opinion. You called me a hypocrite. That's about the worst insult you can lay on me, because I am never anything but honest about what I feel and think.
Uglyness, like beauty, comes from the heart.
No offense TD, I'm just in total disagreement (and disbelief)
kokoro
I am offended, kokoro, as much by the sly dig at my character as by the out-and-out insult upon it.
I looked up "hypocrisy" in my dictionary. It said this: "a pretense of having desirable or publicly approved attitudes, beliefs, principles, etc. that one does not actually possess".
I think I've made it pretty clear that I do NOT have publicly approved attitudes, beliefs and principles, and I've never made any claim that I have. What would have made me a hypocrite, kokoro, would have been to agree with others who hold the popular opinion while believing something else entirely. That is hypocrisy; and that's something I would never do.
"Ugliness, like beauty, comes from the heart."
You've said that twice, now. I don't know what your definition of ugliness is, but mine includes dishonesty, deception, hypocrisy, betrayal, manipulation, self-centredness and selfishness.
I have no doubt that my raw honesty and relentlessly blunt manner of expressing myself is off-putting to some; but at least people know exactly where they stand with me. They know they can rely on me to tell them the truth, and know that what I'm telling them is coming from the real *me*, and not some persona I put on for the occasion to fit some arbitrary definition of being "nice".
I gave my honest opinion on why I thought Arissa was not beautiful. I even gave you an honest and straight from the heart explanation of where that opinion came from. I didn't say, "maybe", I didn't say "possibly", I said what it was. I know my shortcomings, and I laid them bare.
That you don't agree with my opinion is perfectly acceptable. I don't expect everyone to agree with me, nor do I expect to agree with others all the time. That's what makes things interesting, both here and in the mundane world. But to tell me that I'm a hypocrite for expressing my opinion because as a victim of criticism on my own looks I therefore *should not* make a critical assessment of another's - no, I do not find that acceptable. That, in *my* book, IS hypocrisy, and I won't do it.
If being honest about my thoughts and motivations makes me ugly in your eyes, well, so be it.
Again, littledragon, I apologise for the continuing hijack of your thread. Please post some more pictures soon!
-TD, raw
Yes Littledragon,please more pics!
