since i always thought of myself as a person who values harmony above a lot of other things a question came to my mind:
is it ok to give up huge parts of your own personality to keep up harmony?
when does it get unhealthy to just swallow everything?
for example:
when i get into an argument i usually don´t bother if someone gets insulting or is doing me wrong... i just walk off to let those people calm down and then i walk up to them and talk about it as soon as i think that a rational conversation is possible...
but what do i do if there´s no sign of that? that everything i say -no matter when or what- is understood as an attack?
is there anything i can do to calm down myself, so i can get by until it´s over? (and it will be in about 4 weeks)
i tried my poor efforts of meditation and that usually helps, but somehow it doesn´t work this time...
are there any techniques to use in such a situation?
i will appreciate any suggestions...
thank you
(hope it was ok to post it in this section... )
is it ok to give up huge parts of your own personality to keep up harmony?
when does it get unhealthy to just swallow everything?
for example:
when i get into an argument i usually don´t bother if someone gets insulting or is doing me wrong... i just walk off to let those people calm down and then i walk up to them and talk about it as soon as i think that a rational conversation is possible...
but what do i do if there´s no sign of that? that everything i say -no matter when or what- is understood as an attack?
is there anything i can do to calm down myself, so i can get by until it´s over? (and it will be in about 4 weeks)
i tried my poor efforts of meditation and that usually helps, but somehow it doesn´t work this time...
are there any techniques to use in such a situation?
i will appreciate any suggestions...
thank you
(hope it was ok to post it in this section... )