More Sad News (for me)...

[ORANGATUANG]

I dont know if i can handle any more sad news this year...Iam so worried about Mama san like the rest of us here..I dont know if you all saw a post i put in about 2 weeks ago, it was about a freind of mine had cancer and he said that he didnt want to be cut open,well he got his wish..To make a long story short his brother came knocking on our door tonight and he was a mess
his brother was dead...This guy lived on a farm and nobody had seen him for
3 days and the police were called to check on him..I guess the pain got to much for him..The police found him HANGING...I guess the pain won..I will more then likely get this bleeped out but iam so sick and tired of loosing family,freinds to fucking cancer...Iam half pissed i might as well go all the way.Iam sorry for saying the "f"word but iam hurting so much......So even though Mama san is not my real grand-ma (i wish) i need her back and i refuse to hear that she is no longer with our family...

 

[ORANGATUANG]

If members dont like me saying the "f" word..I apoligise for that because i never say that word here before.It will be the last.I have had 6 glasses of white wine its a miracle i can see anything and iam not stopping yet..Heather.Hey i spelt my name right
i must be still slobber...

 

[Lotussan]

Heather, I am sooooo sorry to hear about your friend, you poor girl...
And his brother must be in shock too...
I can't understand why he'd do such a thing, but I guess unless it's you feeling the fear and the pain, it's too tough to understand...
I just don't know how scared I would be, if it were me, I'd be a basket case, I think...
I know you're hurting real bad, but it's not your fault, so you have to realize that there wasn't much you could do...
Please don't drink too much, it's bad for your diabetes and we don't need something bad happening to you...
Cancer sucks, sigh...
But good friends are a real treasure, so please take care...
You know that I am here for you anytime, girl...
Lots of love and hugs from Lotussan~

 

[katw_03]

Heather, I am so sorry for you on your loss. I know the pain
cancer creates for loved ones & friends. My sister is a lung
cancer survivor, and now my 80 year old daddy has prostate
cancer....I can't say I know how you feel, but please accept
my sincere sympathy. If you should feel a need to talk I will
be here for you!! I know your grief is profound.

love& hugs,
katrina

 

[KATHYPURDOM]

I dont know if i can handle any more sad news this year...Iam so worried about Mama san like the rest of us here..I dont know if you all saw a post i put in about 2 weeks ago, it was about a freind of mine had cancer and he said that he didnt want to be cut open,well he got his wish..To make a long story short his brother came knocking on our door tonight and he was a mess
his brother was dead...This guy lived on a farm and nobody had seen him for
3 days and the police were called to check on him..I guess the pain got to much for him..The police found him HANGING...I guess the pain won..I will more then likely get this bleeped out but iam so sick and tired of loosing family,freinds to fucking cancer...Iam half pissed i might as well go all the way.Iam sorry for saying the "f"word but iam hurting so much......So even though Mama san is not my real grand-ma (i wish) i need her back and i refuse to hear that she is no longer with our family...

I am so sorry to hear that Heather. You have gone through so much this year. I have never had anyone that I know take their own life but my mom's side of the family have all died from cancer. I know what you mean about Mama san, she is like the grandma I never had.
Right now you need to think and take care of yourself. You are also part of this family and we need you.
I have been pretty dizzy from my concussion that I got in February and yes I am tired of being like this, but sometimes we just have to deal with it and take care of ourselves.
Kathy

 

[Serena]

I'm so sorry about your neighbor, Heather. It does seem that your family has seen some troubled times recently. Fortunately for them all, you're a good-hearted, strong person. I know it's not always easy being the strong one, but God won't heap more on you than you can handle. And it's okay to be angry and grieve. It's only natural, and it's certainly better than bottling everything up inside you.

Don't try to understand why he did what he did, Heather. No one can ever know the thoughts that were going through his mind, and more families and friends tear themselves apart by trying to figure that out, when there can never be a clear-cut answer. As you said, the pain, plus possibly the fear of being a burden to others, since he was alone, could indeed be factors.

Now is the time to focus on his brother and whatever family he may have. Maybe you can help yourself by helping them. Whether it might be with funeral arrangements, or a get-together afterwards, or offering to help them handle things on the farm that will need to be settled and disposed of. This activitity, helping them in their time of need, will be beneficial to all of you.

Mama san may not be here right at this moment, Heather, but we all are. We all care about you and support you, and will be here for you.

 

[suziwong]

Oh Heather I am very sorry for your loss. Heather it is not easy and take care !! Do not drink my dear please !!!
I love you sooooooooooooo muchhhhhh
God Bless

 

[Serena]

.....I have been pretty dizzy from my concussion that I got in February and yes I am tired of being like this, but sometimes we just have to deal with it and take care of ourselves.
Kathy

Kathy, I'm sorry you're still having difficulties after your concussion. Are you following with a neurologist, or at least a family physician for that? You should be seeing someone regularly. I don't know if you're aware, but there are medications that can help you with that dizziness and the nausea that may produce.

Please feel free to PM me if you have any questions, okay? I'm not allowed to give medical advice over the internet, but I can talk to a friend about a problem, right?

 

[Lotussan]

Kathy, hope you feel better soon...Take good care, and we're here if you need us...
And remember, you've always got those nice thoughts of Steven to comfort you...
Serena, you are wonderful...

 

[Storm]

Oh Heather,take it easy girl.It must be awful having that on your mind.Time will heal,but your memories of your friend will stay with you.Think of the good times eh?
I hope Casey shows up.It's not like her to not answer e mails.

 

[Lotussan]

It's ood too see you here Storm, hope you are doing fine, too...

 

[Storm]

Thanks Lotus.I'll pop in more often to see you ok?I'm fine.

 

[Lotussan]

Good to hear...

 

[TDWoj]

Heather, I'm so sorry for your loss, and how it came about.

 

[Nico]

So sorry to hear about you loss Heather. Hope you take care of your self, and don't drink to much, you'll only feel worse in the morning. We are all thinking of you and hope that the rest of the year will bring you more positive things.

Love Nico

 

[Amos Stevens]

Heather I am sorry to hear about the loss of another one of your friends. I know it ain't easy but you have to go on-one second at a time,because whether you realize it or not-each second that you interact with someone-be it in person or be it over the internet,you are making a difference in that persons life..and if nothing else,that is worth going on & living your life with whatever comes along!

 

[KATHYPURDOM]

Kathy, hope you feel better soon...Take good care, and we're here if you need us...
And remember, you've always got those nice thoughts of Steven to comfort you...
Serena, you are wonderful...

Thank you Lotussan, it's nice to have all of you as friends.

 

[Storm]

In a world where people are out for what they can get,to come here reminds me there are still a lot of good people about.

 

[Serena]

In a world where people are out for what they can get,to come here reminds me there are still a lot of good people about.

Storm, you have a delightful way of cutting through all the flowery words and getting the point across in one sentence. Well done!

Do you give lessons? I think I could use a few. I HAVE been known to be a bit long-winded at times, eh?

 

[Kathy]

Sorry for everyones troubles. My Mom use to always say that when you feel bad about something, think about someone who is in a worse way, and you won't feel so bad about yourself. And when that doesn't work, pray! Good luck to everyone, Kathy