Sandie-Jo said:Hi! I really hope that you have some good news, soon, and I hope that things will go well for your Father.
"clearing" out the unnecessary might be therapeutic, just don't go over board,..LOL
Serena, I loved your post, was very helpful to me today,.
Sandie-Jo said:"clearing" out the unnecessary might be therapeutic, just don't go over board,..LOL
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Trust me, "overboard" would hardly scratch the surface. I'm the worst pack-rat, and it's all the environmentalists' fault. No, really! I hate throwing anything out if there's the slightest chance I might get some more use out of it, even if I haven't used it in ages. I've decided that the time has come to get over David Suzuki (Canadian tv personality, big on environmental issues) and to THROW STUFF OUT if I'm not using it or don't really need it. Cleverly, though, I am not putting the items directly into the trash, I'm just leaving it beside the trash. I guarantee most of it will be gone by nightfall. And no, I'm not waiting for the next time our building has a yard sale and make a little cash on the side - it's got to go now!
Also, it doesn't help that I'm a collector - books, Star Wars and Star Trek toys, videos, cds and now dvds, teacups and saucers and wineglasses and glass tumblers which strike my fancy (not sets; never sets, guaranteed to break one immediately, so I just find singles that interest me, like depression glass, or blown glass); not to mention my hobbies, like sewing quilts (all sewn by hand not by machine, I should point out) and knitting sweaters and blankets and baby clothes for my friends. The latter, especially the quilting, takes up a LOT of space. I have a quilt I'm making for a friend right now that has pretty much taken over my living room, and I need to get it finished before Christmas or there won't be any place to put my Christmas tree! Then there are two more quilts waiting to be quilted, and one more only partly pieced that need to be done. Yikes!
Discarding all the unnecessary stuff that I've allowed to accumulate over the years that seems to possess me more than I possess it, and finishing projects begun and set aside for too long, will be like running my soul through the washer, I think.
-TD, only mildly obsessive compulsive
Amos Stevens said:Well maybe the water will wash all your problems away-and if a cute plumber shows up that would be a good thing
Lotussan said:Dear TD, I am soooo sorry! But don't worry, I am sure he will be fine, at age 89, surgery might be a little harder, but I am sure they are considering all the possiblities...My father had radiation therapy, is that an option for your father?
Surprisingly, my father had very little in the way of complications...
In any case I hope that everything goes well...It's a scary situation, but it is a slow growing thing in most cases...They say that most men that get it usually never know, and usually something else is usually more affecting...
Good Luck, and blessings to you...If you want to talk, PM me anytime, and try not to worry...Again, I apologize for overlooking the thread, I feel really bad...Hang in there, dear...
Jalu said:TD,
I've been meaning to tell you.... It'd be good to consider not getting the surgery (get a second opinion first), if the cancer is not affecting him othewise. A surgery can be detrimental for a person of his age and condition. I had a college professor/ Doctor who told us that because cancer grows faster in younger people they might need surgery, but in the case of an older person it might be different. He told us he'd not have a surgery if he was ever diagnosed w/ prostate cancer at his age( he was in his 60s). Older people can die of natural causes (sorry) before the cancer develops. Now... if he had it for a long time, and just recently found out about it it's a different story. I'd definitely get a second opinion...complications are a concern in his case.
Hope things work out....
Serena said:Hey, TD. Sorry you're having a crummy day. These are just what the doctor (or nurse, in this case) ordered:
CAN'T HURT, ANYWAY!!
Storm said:I've just read this thread for the first time and all i can say is i hope things get better soon. You made the right decision about your flat. You are still on the list and maybe they'll offer you one that doesn't smell and your finances improve.
I would think surgery is not advisable at your dad's age but if he feels he wants it he may,as you say dig his heels in.The trouble with the net is it's just a screen and we can't see what hardships you face but you are strong,and you'll get it right.All i can do is wish you a luxurious apartment!
Lotussan said:TD, my sympathies about your dad...
Here is a site about TURP that looks informative, but I thought this was for
non cancerous enlargements? My dad had it done a long time ago before his diagnosis...
From what I know it's a very,very,common procedure....
Anyway, hope you find this link helpful...
http://home1.gte.net/keenie/turp/
Keep the faith!
And as for the apartment, just remember, you can't rightly do anything until you can afford it, or you will be having worse financial problems, so hang in there...
At least you are independent and living as your own boss!
Amos Stevens said:TD; everyone would like a nicier place to live-we just have to make the best of what we got at the time.
Amos Stevens said:I do hope the best for you & your father..the longer he is in the hospital under proper care the better
TD, don't worry about being alone. We may not be blood, but we are family--maybe a little dysfunctional, sometimes --but still family. - Serena.TDWoj said:...knowing at some point I'm going to be completely alone in the world does freak me out when I pause to think about it.