thanks Heather,
it's always good to hear from another aussie girl.
My duahger and her husband hae decided for counselling. He went last thrusday and she is going this week, she had an exam to sit for and study and it was so fenetic and stressful she decided to counselling later.
she sounded in much better spirits on saturday. Is looking forward to her brother and his family arriving in London next Friday.
She thinks that will take off the focus of their issues at home.
They love fmily life but are on divegent pathes at the moment and need to talk about their issues in front of an impartial counsellor.
It's tough, especially for her, having studies to get through, she is studying to be a naturopath, specialising in Nutritional medicine.
changin a ceer path is difficlt , she used to be in marketing and management, having completed a commerce degree in Perth and worked in Hong kOn gand siongpore but has spent the last 7 years having babies and emigrating to Britain becuase her husbnad gave up his DEO big job in Hong kong to return to ritain to help his elderly aging parent, they had high hopes for his family to be more connected to them and their family, but that proved a big disappointment. they are divorced, his parents and his brothers and sisters live a hermit's life and hardly mix.
the whole migratory experience, plus the fact that he is at home all day looking over her shoulder, very jealous, checks up on her all the time and interferes with what she is doing at home. It is driving her mad, I must admit I have gone through that, it's maddening to have a partner live at home with you 24 hrs a day. she's fighting to be her own person. Perhaps studying when the baby is still one year of age is too early and she is too stressed out. meanwhile counselling may help or it may not, i worry.
I will be there to help out while she studies and sits for another exam and her nanny goes on holiday so I will be in charge of the household. It's hard having babies, studying and living so far from family and friends, she told me that the isolation is terrible. I feel for her becuase i left australia at a yong age and lived in asia for 13 years before returning to Perth, but my family was in melbourne at one point I hadn't seen my own family for 10 years, too long. at least I get to see my daugher and son once or twice a year, but it isn't easy being so far from them. thank goe of emails, how did people do it in the old days?
Ihope ;your cold is better, you sound bouncy again onsite and i love your bantering.
Love,
Halyna